Have you read the title of my blog? It’s “I Fight Back.” Do you know what the tattoo on my shoulder says? It says “Speak up.”
Most of you probably don’t know this because you saw a picture of me floating around on a NSFW blog somewhere, and followed me because of it, and like, yeah, I get it. I’ve got big ‘ol delicious 22 year-old tits. I like them too. But now this has happened:
And every day I get a lot of conflicting messages. I get told to take my top off. I get commended for NOT getting naked on the internet, even though I don’t find any problem with it. I get asked what I go for in men. I just got one about liking big black dick. I get lots of judgements and comments on my life, like people are trying to revise and rewrite what I’m doing, like I’m a story to be reworked. I can’t stress that because this is the internet and nothing is sacred and there is no safe place here, but it means I also get to react in any way I please. I don’t know what the netiquette is here, but maybe I should warn you: I am a feminist. In addition to that, I will speak out against what I consider to be social injustices. If I see slut-shaming, sexist, racist, or homophobic behavior, I will speak the fuck up.
So today, a stranger told me I shouldn’t be so angry, and I didn’t like it. In a second message he apologized, and I accepted and answered privately back. But then in the third message he tried the same thing again- invalidating my feelings. Trying to make me feel guilty for making *him* look bad in a particularly condescending manner. And although I don’t know if he sent me the MANY anonymous messages I immediately received afterwards telling me to go back to the kitchen, that I’m a disgrace, that I don’t deserve any respect, that is the reaction I got from people for speaking up.
So maybe it’s time for a refresher course for the newbies around here.
My name is Leah Williams. Hello. This is what I look like. You’re welcome here. I like nerdy stuff. I work in a comic store. My coworker and I have banned people from the shop for hate speech. We’re voted most LGBT-friendly in Los Angeles. I have a very distinct black and white sense of justice. I’m an atheist. I’m militant feminist.
And, most importantly,
I fight back.