But what we don’t realize is that we are socialized, from a very young age, to recognize that violence from men is an acceptable form of secret affection. When we were little, the boy we repeatedly bullied us, called us names and punched us on the playground, we were told by our parents “He hits you because he like you.”

As a parent, be aware of the lessons that you teach your little girls, they can stick with them all the way into adulthood. How about instead you teach them to have zero tolerance policy of violence towards them.

Teach them that people that hit you, don’t love you.

etherealgirl:

This woman is amazing.  I’m following her just for what she’s written below.

barbiehighheels:

Have you read the title of my blog? It’s “I Fight Back.” Do you know what the tattoo on my shoulder says? It says “Speak up.”

Most of you probably don’t know this because you saw a picture of me floating around on a NSFW blog somewhere, and followed me because of it, and like, yeah, I get it. I’ve got big ‘ol delicious 22 year-old tits. I like them too. But now this has happened: 

And every day I get a lot of conflicting messages. I get told to take my top off. I get commended for NOT getting naked on the internet, even though I don’t find any problem with it. I get asked what I go for in men. I just got one about liking big black dick. I get lots of judgements and comments on my life, like people are trying to revise and rewrite what I’m doing, like I’m a story to be reworked. I can’t stress that because this is the internet and nothing is sacred and there is no safe place here, but it means I also get to react in any way I please. I don’t know what the netiquette is here, but maybe I should warn you: I am a feminist. In addition to that, I will speak out against what I consider to be social injustices. If I see slut-shaming, sexist, racist, or homophobic behavior, I will speak the fuck up.

So today, a stranger told me I shouldn’t be so angry, and I didn’t like it. In a second message he apologized, and I accepted and answered privately back. But then in the third message he tried the same thing again- invalidating my feelings. Trying to make me feel guilty for making *him* look bad in a particularly condescending manner. And although I don’t know if he sent me the MANY anonymous messages I immediately received afterwards telling me to go back to the kitchen, that I’m a disgrace, that I don’t deserve any respect, that is the reaction I got from people for speaking up.

So maybe it’s time for a refresher course for the newbies around here. 

My name is Leah Williams. Hello. This is what I look like. You’re welcome here. I like nerdy stuff. I work in a comic store. My coworker and I have banned people from the shop for hate speech. We’re voted most LGBT-friendly in Los Angeles. I have a very distinct black and white sense of justice. I’m an atheist. I’m militant feminist.

And, most importantly,

I fight back.

(Source: handaxe, via amongst-the-lies)

oforganon:

I get it—you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something, or connect you to doing something, that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never…

(Source: juniperjelly)

acherontia-atropos:

See this is why BJ is one of my favorite people.  He posts awesome stuff like this.

(Source: petiteperspective, via acherontia-atropos-deactivated2)

You know, I used to be really sad and angry at myself, because I used to think that the reason why I can never get a boyfriend, is because I have all the qualities that guys don’t like in girls. I’m independent, I don’t like being taken care of, I’m career focused, I talk loud, I laugh loud, I’m atheist, pro-choice, a feminist, I’m a nerd for comics and cartoons and I’ll always stand up and be vocal for what I believe in; All things that guys don’t find attractive. But you know what? I’m ok with this. I would rather be alone and stay true to myself, than change what makes up me and grow old with someone who loves me for what I’m not. <3